Never has the need for me-time as a mama been more apparent to me than over the past year, since I’ve made the transition to being a single mom who’s responsible for the majority of childcare.
My every waking moment is consumed with mothering: from the moment I open my eyes in the morning to the minute I turn out the light at the end of the night, and every decision and every action in between.
Don’t get me wrong: whether you’re married or single, a working mom or a stay-at-home mom – being a mother is tiring at the best of times. To have these little beings depend on you for their every need and want is a massive responsibility, and one that can easily eclipse all your own personal needs. But never has it become more clear to me just how much we, as moms, need to look after ourselves to ensure that we actually have something to give to our loved ones at the end of the day.
We’ve all heard that saying that you can’t pour from an empty cup, and if there’s one lesson I’ve learnt over the past year, it’s just how true those words are.
For months I struggled to keep head above water, making sure that Bean’s every need was met, and working until the early hours of every morning. I was burning the candle at both ends, and I could feel that I was approaching burn out. So I did something I’d never done before: I stopped. I relooked my to-do lists, and scratched off all those tasks that weren’t important (posting to social media on a daily basis was one of the first ‘tasks’ that went). I stocked my freezer with ready-made meals from Woolies (and I waved the guilt of not cooking a wholesome meal from scratch every evening goodbye). I started packing Beanie’s lunch boxes in the evenings to make the morning routine run a little smoother. I started saying no, and turned away work and clients that I knew I didn’t have the capacity for – regardless of how amazing the opportunity or money was. I had to come to a point where I realised that I simply couldn’t do it all anymore. And I slowly started making more time for me.
Instead of trying to squeeze as much work as possible into the afternoons that Bean spent with his dad, I set aside an hour to go for a walk around the neighbourhood. Soon these walks turned into trail runs with friends, and before long, I took up a new hobby: cycling! (Because #GreytonLiving. If you can’t beat them, join them – right?!) I treated myself to some fancy lavender-scented epsom salts and indulge in a candle-lit bath at least once a week, and I’ve set aside R50 in my budget every month to buy myself a magazine. Instead of drinking copious cups of cheap, instant coffee, I’ve started treating myself to one delicious cup of proper coffee every afternoon when I feel my energy start to slump. These all seem like such small, insignificant changes, but they’ve made the biggest difference to my overall state of mind.
My #MeTimeMoment with L’Or Espresso
I’ve always been amazed at how the simple ritual of taking just 5 minutes to breathe while sipping on a cup of (still hot) coffee is all you need to slow down in the middle of a frantic day. So when L’Or Espresso approached me to share more about my own #metimemoment, I jumped at the chance. I’ve always been a big believer in the importance of self-care and making time for you, and I’m an even bigger believer in the power of a good cup of coffee!
L’Or Espresso’s alluminium capsules have been specially designed to be used with most Nespresso® coffee machines (you can find a list of compatible machines at lorespresso.com), and they have a variety of roasts and intensities on offer. By far my favourite is Sontuoso (or ‘the purple one‘ as I’ve started calling it), which is an intensity 8 and is ideal for the morning kickstart every mama needs. (In the afternoons, I go for Satinato, which is a lower intensity of 6 and is beautifully smooth and easy to drink – and doesn’t keep me awake at night!)
Best of all, L’Or Espresso’s alluminium capsules are recyclable, and they’re also really budget-friendly at around R59 for a pack of 10. This means that I can indulge in a really high quality, coffee shop-style cappuccino every single morning for roughly R6 a cup. Such a win!
For more on L’Or Espresso and to see the variety of coffee capsules they have on offer, click here. L’Or capsules are available at all major supermarkets nationwide, and you can also purchase them online at Takealot here. You can also follow L’Or on Instagram (here) or on Facebook (here).
Have you tried L’Or Espresso’s coffee capsules yet? I’d also love to know how you make time for self-care as a busy mom – whether it’s going for regular coffee dates with a friend, reading a good book, or some good old retail therapy! Please do leave a comment below to let me know – maybe we can give each other some ideas!
*disclaimer: I received a Nespresso machine and L’Or Espresso capsules as a gift in exchange for this blog post